Is there such a thing as service that is "too good"?
I get annoyed with service whenever I travel to India, even though I know it is "better" than what I would receive at most places in Europe or North America. Part of me feels guilty for not being a gracious recipient of all the attention, but a larger part feels like people just need to be aware of individual preferences and customize their approach accordingly.
To be honest, I blame the environment more than I blame the service people. India is unique because locals expect service people to do everything for them. Most Indians I know employ at least one, if not multiple staff members. The staff can earn as little as INR 5,000 per month (less than US$100) and many of them cannot even afford a home for themselves. If they do have a place to live, it generally resembles a tent more than it would a home. Meanwhile, the people employing them visit restaurants like the ones in my hotels and spend more on one dinner than they pay their staff for an entire month of work. Do they have any feelings of guilt? No. Most people truly believe that they are doing a favor to their staff, who would otherwise have no job at all. I have plenty of opinions about this, but I'll save them for another time.
The purpose of this example is simply to illustrate that the majority of professional people in India expect that low-wage workers will always be available to do almost any menial task. This mindset is heightened in 5-star hotels and restaurants, where it would be unimaginable for guests to refill their own wine glass - even if the bottle is sitting right in front of them in the center of the table.
One day in Chennai, I was eating lunch at an Italian restaurant with 5 other Indians and we decided to share some pizzas, which were all placed in the center of the table. I almost started laughing whenever one of them wanted another slice and actually called a waiter over to serve it to them. Without hesitation, the waiter would politely lift a slice of pizza from one plate to another. As a Westerner, I would never call a waiter over to do something that I could easily do for myself. Furthermore, if I made such a request in Europe, the waiter would probably look at me like I was crazy.
In Western countries, the concept of human dignity includes the belief that everyone deserves a salary that will afford them a comfortable place to live. As a result, higher wages make it more difficult for hotels, restaurants, and even individuals to hire as many staff people. Our culture simply forces us to do more things for ourselves and that is reflected in our expectations of service.
On my first day in Chennai, I went to the lounge for breakfast and began helping myself to the continental buffet spread. After pouring cereal into a bowl, the waitress asked if I wanted any milk. I saw a carafe of milk sitting right in front of me, so I responded "Yes, I will just take some of this". She immediately reached for it, and I said: "No, that's ok. I will pour it for myself". As I was pouring the milk, she put her hands on the edge of the carafe, in a continued effort to help me.
My first instinct was to think: "Does she really think I'm so helpless that I can't even pour my own milk?" I had to remind myself that the oppressive service is with only the best intentions, but it is still frustrating because it shows that she does not know how to adapt to my preferences.
Every morning that I ate breakfast there, I could feel the eyes of the waitresses as they watched me eat. As soon as I finished the last bite on my plate, they would rush over to clear it for me. If I left anything on my plate, they would ask if it was not good enough. By the end of the week, I wanted nothing more than to eat a meal without someone watching my every bite.
Truly exceptional service is difficult to achieve because each customer has different expectations. Even the same individual can have different expectations based on his/her mood and situation. Service employees need to be constantly aware of verbal and non-verbal cues and cannot apply a one-size-fits-all approach.
Hotels in India have the added challenge of having to cater to clientele with vastly different expectations. Western travelers often do not want as much attention, while rich Indians are much more accustomed to having people waiting on them in every aspect of their life. I think it is important for service people to recognize these major differences.
Broadly speaking, I think service in India is great for anyone who likes to be treated like royalty. With such high staffing levels, there are always people available that are eager to serve. Professionalism is also paramount and I have never once felt like anyone was even the slightest bit rude to me. I just hope that as India continues welcoming more and more Western travelers, the service can become better aligned with our expectations.
I get annoyed with service whenever I travel to India, even though I know it is "better" than what I would receive at most places in Europe or North America. Part of me feels guilty for not being a gracious recipient of all the attention, but a larger part feels like people just need to be aware of individual preferences and customize their approach accordingly.
To be honest, I blame the environment more than I blame the service people. India is unique because locals expect service people to do everything for them. Most Indians I know employ at least one, if not multiple staff members. The staff can earn as little as INR 5,000 per month (less than US$100) and many of them cannot even afford a home for themselves. If they do have a place to live, it generally resembles a tent more than it would a home. Meanwhile, the people employing them visit restaurants like the ones in my hotels and spend more on one dinner than they pay their staff for an entire month of work. Do they have any feelings of guilt? No. Most people truly believe that they are doing a favor to their staff, who would otherwise have no job at all. I have plenty of opinions about this, but I'll save them for another time.
The purpose of this example is simply to illustrate that the majority of professional people in India expect that low-wage workers will always be available to do almost any menial task. This mindset is heightened in 5-star hotels and restaurants, where it would be unimaginable for guests to refill their own wine glass - even if the bottle is sitting right in front of them in the center of the table.
One day in Chennai, I was eating lunch at an Italian restaurant with 5 other Indians and we decided to share some pizzas, which were all placed in the center of the table. I almost started laughing whenever one of them wanted another slice and actually called a waiter over to serve it to them. Without hesitation, the waiter would politely lift a slice of pizza from one plate to another. As a Westerner, I would never call a waiter over to do something that I could easily do for myself. Furthermore, if I made such a request in Europe, the waiter would probably look at me like I was crazy.
In Western countries, the concept of human dignity includes the belief that everyone deserves a salary that will afford them a comfortable place to live. As a result, higher wages make it more difficult for hotels, restaurants, and even individuals to hire as many staff people. Our culture simply forces us to do more things for ourselves and that is reflected in our expectations of service.
On my first day in Chennai, I went to the lounge for breakfast and began helping myself to the continental buffet spread. After pouring cereal into a bowl, the waitress asked if I wanted any milk. I saw a carafe of milk sitting right in front of me, so I responded "Yes, I will just take some of this". She immediately reached for it, and I said: "No, that's ok. I will pour it for myself". As I was pouring the milk, she put her hands on the edge of the carafe, in a continued effort to help me.
My first instinct was to think: "Does she really think I'm so helpless that I can't even pour my own milk?" I had to remind myself that the oppressive service is with only the best intentions, but it is still frustrating because it shows that she does not know how to adapt to my preferences.
Every morning that I ate breakfast there, I could feel the eyes of the waitresses as they watched me eat. As soon as I finished the last bite on my plate, they would rush over to clear it for me. If I left anything on my plate, they would ask if it was not good enough. By the end of the week, I wanted nothing more than to eat a meal without someone watching my every bite.
Truly exceptional service is difficult to achieve because each customer has different expectations. Even the same individual can have different expectations based on his/her mood and situation. Service employees need to be constantly aware of verbal and non-verbal cues and cannot apply a one-size-fits-all approach.
Hotels in India have the added challenge of having to cater to clientele with vastly different expectations. Western travelers often do not want as much attention, while rich Indians are much more accustomed to having people waiting on them in every aspect of their life. I think it is important for service people to recognize these major differences.
Broadly speaking, I think service in India is great for anyone who likes to be treated like royalty. With such high staffing levels, there are always people available that are eager to serve. Professionalism is also paramount and I have never once felt like anyone was even the slightest bit rude to me. I just hope that as India continues welcoming more and more Western travelers, the service can become better aligned with our expectations.